You can preorder my book Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject here!
Subjectified is a book about subjects, objects, and verbs. It is also a book about clothing-optional resorts, group masturbation circles, and sex parties.
Suzannah Weiss takes the reader through her adventures as a sex and relationship writer to explore how we can create a world with less objectification and more subjectification ― placing women and other marginalized groups in the subject role of sentences and actions. Offering a deeply personal account and powerful critique of sexual empowerment movements, Suzannah Weiss presents a way forward that focuses more on what women desire, and less on what men desire from them. She makes a bold yet compassionate call for women everywhere to inhabit their bodies and hearts ― to remain connected to their inner eye and their inner “I,” even in a world where they are disproportionately “you,” “she,” or “them.”
The book is for everybody wanting to understand themselves better as subjects. Wholeheartedly, the author invites you to follow her search for subjecthood and, should you desire, forge your own path out of objecthood.
Praise for Subjectified
“Subjectified is delightfully nerdy, zeroing in on the details of how language informs our feelings and framings. The way Suzannah Weiss weaves personal and societal together is absolutely stunning. Thanks to Suzannah for sharing this with me, and the world.”-Jessica Stoya, porn icon and sex columnist
“Suzannah Weiss rediscovers sex-positivity as she returns our agency, worth and subjectivity to ourselves, our own voice and vision, our ‘I’. This radical script-flipping of women’s selfhood sees Suzannah dancing with language and gifting us the wonderful, powerful identity ‘subject of desire.’ Suzannah Weiss rediscovers sex-positivity as she returns our agency, worth and subjectivity to ourselves, our own voice and vision, our ‘I’. This radical script-flipping of women’s selfhood sees Suzannah dancing with language and gifting us the wonderful, powerful identity ‘subject of desire.’”-Carol Queen, Carol Queen, Good Vibes Staff Sexologist, Co-founder of Center for Sex & Culture, and author of ‘Exhibitionism for the Shy’
“Authentic and moving. Challenging and uplifting. This book couldn’t be more relevant to the battleground that is women’s bodies.”-Victoria Bateman, author of Naked Feminism
“Taking us on a journey of sexual liberation, Subjectified is a deep dive into what it means to be objectified and how we can talk, think and action our way into becoming the subject of our own lives.”-Erika Lust, award-winning indie erotic filmmaker, and author of ‘Good Porn’
“Suzannah is one of the best sex writers out there. Her voice is one that lifts and carries you. This book has the power to change the way we think of ourselves as women, as people — to know our power and agency when we so often have been left wanting.”-Gigi Engle, award-winning author and certified psychosexual therapist.
“Subjectified will make you think—about the words we use to describe women, sex, and men. More than that, it will inspire readers to consider their role in the world and how they want to create their own sexual narrative and life journey. Using cultural critique, linguistic analysis, surprising facts from science, and her own journey as both a woman and a sex-writer, Suzannah Weiss invites readers into her world so that they can choose if they want to change their own. I plan to recommend this book to students and clients for years to come. I am certain that all will have ‘Aha!’ moments and be inspired to make changes to the way they approach the world of sex.”-Laurie Mintz, Emeritus Professor, University of Florida and author of Becoming Cliterate
“Subjectified is a deeply heartfelt, thought-provoking, and gripping account of Suzannah Weiss’s personal journey toward empowerment in a world that still frequently treats women as objects. It is a gift to any woman who wants to get in touch with her own true north and make choices that honor her body, mind, and feelings, across each and every part of her life.”-Tiffany Pham, Founder of Mogul, Investor, and WSJ Bestselling Author of You Are A Mogul
“Subjectified is a highly original, irreverent, and refreshing perspective on what it means to be a woman. I hugely enjoyed Suzannah Weiss’s debunking of the sacred cows of female sexuality (I use that term deliberately — you’ll see why). I guarantee you’ll never look at ‘the divine feminine’ in the same way again.”-Cindy Gallop, Founder & CEO, MakeLoveNotPorn
“What Suzannah Weiss has achieved in Subjectified is remarkable. In a marketplace packed with ‘pop feminism’ books she has written something fresh, absorbing and important. This is persuasive, ground-breaking material.”-Emma Rees, Professor of Literature and Gender Studies at University of Chester, and author of The Vagina
“Subjectified is a super thoughtful, heartfelt, generous story that dives into many important and interesting topics, such as menstrual blood, dick pics, the politics of pubes, sex work as play, behind the nipples, easy money, sex and divinity, body sizes, and more — all in one nicely written book. Suzannah Weiss asks and answers many questions about our bodies and ourselves, which many women ponder — if they dare.”-Annie Sprinkle, Sexecologist and author of Assuming the Ecosexual Position—Earth as Lover
“Weiss perfectly breaks down the dehumanizing split between subject and object, detailing the myriad ways in which the enforced position of ‘object’ is profoundly destructive for women. Her deep dive into the consequences of this process is both illuminating and liberating.”-Nina Menkes, Director of BRAINWASHED: Sex- Camera Power
“Subjectified is a book that will make you think long and hard about sex, and the way we talk about it. Weiss shows how a simple sentence flip or reframe can dramatically change the way we think about ourselves and our partners, as well as what it means to be sexually free. Readers stand to become informed and empowered ’subjects’ of desire.”-Justin J. Lehmiller, Ph.D., Host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast and author of Tell Me What You Want
Suzannah Weiss 