Hi! I’m here to help you live a life of pleasure, connectedness, aliveness, humanness, divinity, and fun. Read on for more info on my sex and love coaching.
How it works
Sessions are done over the phone or other convenient audio platforms. During each call, we’ll discuss your goals for your sex and love life and any challenges or developments that come up. I work with women, men, LGBTQ and gender-nonconforming people, and couples (and throuples and polycules and the like). For couples work, I combine one-on-one sessions where individuals can explain their perspectives confidentially with group calls to facilitate communication between partners. Between calls, I give assignments such as journaling activities, self-pleasure exercises, and relationship challenges to ensure regular progress is made. Some clients choose to focus on their relationships, some on their sex lives, and for some it’s an even balance. I’m available over email in between sessions. Contact me for information on session structure and pricing.
What I can help with
Great sex starts outside the bedroom. Sexuality is an extension of sensuality. Learning to have great sex is really about learning to have fun, relax, and slow down. I help clients listen to their bodies and get out of their heads in the bedroom and elsewhere, arming them with information that allows them to better please themselves and their partners. I incorporate data-based techniques as well as holistic practices like breathwork and meditation into my coaching.
For many people, the standard narrative of “date for a while, become exclusive, move in together, get engaged, get married, have kids” just doesn’t fit. I enjoy working with people in unconventional relationships and situations. Even for those with more “conventional” relationships, I encourage the same principles — vulnerability, honesty, and openness — to help people live from their hearts, not from what anyone else prescribes. I enjoy helping people resolve conflicts with their partners by seeing and honoring each other’s points of view, as well as helping singles get to the core of what they want.
I work with all kinds of clients with a variety of goals, but you have definitely come to the right place if:
- You have a vulva and are struggling with orgasms
- You want to better please a partner or partners who have a vulva
- You need guidance on navigating non-monogamy
- You are a man who is confused about how to approach women and what they’re looking for
- You are in a relationship with mismatched sex drives or poor communication
- You are cheating and don’t know where to go from here
- Body image struggles are interfering with your sex and/or love life
- You are a spiritually minded person seeking a spiritual partnership and/or spiritual sex
- You’re looking to discuss your sex life as a new or soon-to-be parent
- You’re trying to figure out what kind of relationship you even want
- You are on the autism spectrum (me too, hi!)
- You’ve had a wild psychedelic trip that shook up everything you thought you know about love (it happens!)
Who am I?
I’m an American College of Sexologists board-certified sexologist and sex educator. OK, Suzannah, but what do those fancy titles mean? They mean I’ve studied sexuality from a scientific perspective, taught about it from a practical perspective, and helped people with it from a human perspective. I am a multi-certified sex educator, having trained with Everyone Deserves Sex Ed, Ante UP, the Indiana University Kinsey Institute, the Institute for Somatic Sexology, and more. I am also a certified sexual assault counselor through Rape Trauma Services, a trained birth and postpartum doula through DONA International, and a certified yoga instructor through Yogaworks.
I hold degrees in Gender & Sexuality Studies and Cognitive Neuroscience from Brown University, where I worked in a social psychology lab and assistant-taught biology and cognitive science, and have independently completed coursework and mentorships in sacred sexuality, extended orgasm, body positivity, and more. Currently, I am working toward a master’s degree in sexual health through the University of Minnesota, so I am always reading the latest sex research. In addition, I’ve spent over seven years as a sex/relationship writer, interviewing experts in the field and analyzing scientific studies. (I’m also trained as a psychic medium, which doesn’t usually come into sessions but can upon request!)
Several formative personal experiences have led me on the path toward sex and love coaching. At age 25, I became determined to change the fact that I had never had an orgasm with a partner, so I threw myself into different learning and healing modalities until I’d developed a method for orgasming during every sexual encounter. I experienced another period of growth at 28, when I confronted the inconvenient epiphany that monogamy wasn’t working for me. This set me on a quest to learn how to love in a way that is unconditional, unattached, and independent.
To my sessions, I bring a wealth of fun facts about human behavior, biology, and society, as well as a compassionate and attentive ear. I can help you address details like what to put on your online dating profile and which sex toys to purchase as much as big questions like how to love someone else while also loving yourself. I advise clients based on a combination of science, intuition, and philosophies borrowed from diverse modalities.
“Suzannah gave me new ideas to consider when approaching women and communicating with them about sex. Since working with her, I have expanded my repertoire of conversations to have, texts to send, and more. I now have a better idea of how to test the waters to see if a woman is interested in me while also making her feel comfortable, and I feel more confident doing so. On top of that, I’ve gained a greater understanding of my own turn-ons as well.” —Mark, Wisconsin
“I had the absolute pleasure of working with Suzannah in her amazing coaching container. Before I started working with her, I was in a relationship that had me anxious and unfulfilled, and I was displaying co-dependent thought processes and patterns within the relationship. Suzannah was able to open my mind to new angles, and I was able to easily and effortlessly let go of this relationship, transitioning to friends seamlessly. Since working with her, I have also learned more about my body and how to create more space for pleasure in my life. I even met a new beautiful connection within a week of letting go of the old. Her work and insights are powerful, and I look forward to working with her more in the future.” — Jacquelyn, Austin, TX
“I am grateful to work with Suzannah. In our sessions, I have become more aware of my own relationship needs and able to ask myself the tough questions so that I quickly decide if I want to invest energy into a potential new relationship. I am not a person who shares personal information with others, but I am comfortable speaking with Suzannah and being open with her. She listens and has great suggestions. Suzannah has helped me look at relationships in a more conscious way that is more positive and helpful.” — Fletcher, Atlanta, GA
“I want to thank Suzannah for all the very thoughtful and insightful guidance she provided to my girlfriend and I over the last three months. We both found her relationship and sex counseling to be incredibly helpful, and it has definitely allowed us to build a stronger and more intimate relationship. Her insights and suggestions were very actionable and allowed us to make regular progress over the course of our sessions. We can’t thank her enough and will be referring to her reminders and notes often to keep us moving forward. This was a very worthwhile endeavor for us!” — Trevor, Nevada